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Raven Jared J.
Discovering this term has helped me
understand quite a few interactions I have encountered in my 19 years on this
planet. Having a word for the way that I have been addressed by my male
counterparts, employers, friends and customers, has allowed me to be let in on
a kind of secret club; a really big club consisting of pretty much every living
woman on the planet. The point is this, the fact that there is a term for this
action lets me know as a woman, that I am not alone, and certainly not
incompetent as I have been made to feel by those that insist upon commenting on
subjects I did not ask for commentary on.
I first began working I knew that people may feel strange about seeing a new
face in a company that has been serving them for 20+ years, and I brushed off
many comments as just that. After working for a few months however, I started
training a guy who was a few years younger than me, and had never done any
irrigation work before. It was then that I fully realized the way many of the
male customers would speak to me differently than the way they would speak to
the guy I was training. The men I am referring to would assume that he was in
charge; more experienced, and wouldn’t question the things that he would say to
them about their sprinklers. When speaking to me, they would assume that not
only did I not know what I was doing, but try to give me instruction on how to
fix the specific leaks that they had called the professionals in to fix. And
when given this unsolicited “advice” it would usually be so wrong I would have
to explain as politely as possible that I did in fact know what I was doing,
which was almost always followed up with an “are you sure?” a question never
posed to the guy I had been training.Here are some actual things that
were actually said to me:“How long have you been working here?”“Are you sure you know what you are doing?”“I think you are doing that wrong, you should put this
[wrong object] here [wrong place].”“I’ll tell you what the problem is… [Not the problem]”
Raven Jared J.
The mansplaining sensation that’s gripping the nation: how and why does it affect our culture?